sunnuntai 25. elokuuta 2013

Christening





I have been writing about traditions relating to the certain calendar dates or times of the year. This month’s post is about christening party (ristiäiset). I wrote about choosing the name for the baby already in January, but I did not talk about the traditions relating to that celebration.

In Finland about 77 % of the population belongs to the Evangelical Lutheran Church, about 1 % to Orthodox Church, a bit over 1 % belongs to other religions and about 21 % don’t belong to any religion group. I’m most familiar with the Lutheran Church, so this post represents the traditions related to christening a child in Lutheran Church.

Approximately 75 % of all children born in 2012 were baptized to Lutheran religion. The christening party is usually held within 6 weeks to 2 months after the birth of a child. The party can be held at home, at parent’s parish’s premises (f. ex. chapel = kappeli or church = kirkko) or at another location (f.ex. grandparent’s home). Also baptizing parties with many children baptized at the same time are still held in the church, but very rarely. A child can also get an emergency baptize (hätäkaste) just after the birth, if the survival of the child is not certain. Anyone belonging to the Lutheran church can baptize in that situation. The child, that survived, celebrates, like other children, the christening party then also later.

In the christening the child is dressed to a christening gown (usually white, but can be also of other colors) and there is usually a pink or light blue bowtie attached to the dress. 
 The christening table is covered with white tablecloth and a Bible, a candle, a white, small linen, a small bucket of flowers and a christening bowl are placed on the table.

The parents may invite only the closest relatives and friends to the christening or they can have a bigger party. Usually the coming godparents, the grandparents and parents’ siblings with their families, grandparents, aunts and uncles are invited. So there may be only priest and 5 guests including the godparents or tens of people present at the christening. The celebration is quite short with a few psalms sung, some prayers, Our Father -prayer, confession, some Bible reading and the baptizing. In the baptizing the priest takes some water from the bowl and waters the babies hair (some priest make the hair all wet, some just touch the hair with the water).

The parents choose usually 2 - 4 godparents to their child among their own siblings or from their closest friends. A godparent must belong to a christian church, that recognizes the child baptizing of Lutheran Church (f.ex. catholic or orthodox) and at least one of the godparents has to belong to the Lutheran church. A person, who does not belong to church, cannot become a godparent.

In the old days the godparents usually took the new born to baptizing just few days after the birth, depending of course of the distance to the church. So naturally a woman still lactating was often chosen as one godparent, because she could feed the child if needed during the voyage. The baptizing happened normally on Sunday after service or just before the service. The mother was usually too weak to go to the church and also for long time she was considered to be dirty after childbirth and had to be blessed before she could enter the church again.

In the middle ages the baptizing was done by sinking the baby into the water naked after which a white linen was wrapped around the baby. The linen belonged to the church. In the 17th century christening was done only by watering the head so the first real christening gowns were made. In the 17th and 18th century the dress was usually made out of silk or velvet and could also be used later as a ceremony dress on other occasions. In the beginning of the 19th century the dress was started to be made out white cotton and the christening dress, as we now it today, was born. It could be also made out the same fabric as mother’s wedding dress had been made. By the end of the 19th century the gender of the baby was told with pink or light blue color and the dress was only used as christening gown. During the 2nd World War the babies were baptized wrapped in their mother’s wedding veil or a dress made out of the wedding dress and veil.

Nowadays the dress is typically white with some pink or light blue ribbons or bowtie. Many families still have gowns in which already the baby’s grandparent or grandparent’s parent was once baptized. Many people embroider the name and the date of a child baptized in that gown on the inner side of the hem of the gown.

The white linen set on the table for drying of the child’s head can also be a linen used in more than one child’s christening in the family and also on it can be embroidered the names and dates of the children.

The Bible on the table is usually the Bible the child’s parents have been given, when wed.

Godparents bring a remembrance gift to the child, f.ex. a spoon or a plate to which the child’s name, birthday and -time and christening day has been engraved to. Other guests bring clothes or something little to the child.

After the christening is the coffee. The table is filled usually with sandwiches or sandwich cake (voileipäkakku) and with sweet bakery like cream cake, buns, biscuits and a sweet pie or tart. The servings can be ordered from a bakery or then self made.

The baby is photographed in the christening gown with godparents, parents, grandparents and often with other guests too. The parents send to all the guests a thank you -card afterwards. Quite many parents also post a notice in the local newspaper stating the name of the new born, birthdate, christening date and birthweight and -length.





7 kommenttia:

  1. That's an interesting post about baby dresses. It was worth visiting your blog. Hope to visit again.

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    VastaaPoista
  2. Thank you. I'm glad, that you enjoyed the blog. :) Bluey

    VastaaPoista
  3. Very informative. Next christening may be a girl so, it still looks traditional for us with white gown and pink sash. And nice details of the table layout.

    VastaaPoista
  4. Is the plate or spoon very common from the godparents? Or might the godparents bring some other item that is engraved? I want to meet the parents' expectations. They are pretty chill but I would like to follow cultural norms. (I am not Finnish.) :)

    VastaaPoista
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    1. Hello! In the old tradition goodparents always gave an engraved spoon with the details of the baby (dates, legnth, weight). But for some decades already the godparetns may have also chosen a plate with the engravings and a place for photo. Some parents clearly say to the godparents, what kind of present they want for the child. Especially in occations, where the parents have chosen more godparents (f. ex 2 couples). All depends quite much from the parents, but if they are normal Finns they will apppreciate anything with the child's details on. It is also okay in Finland just ask it straight from the parents.

      All of my children's godparents asked, that would we prefer, as parents, spoon or plate or something else. We prefered plates as they seem nice in our living room and the children will eventually get them, when they move out.

      I have two godchildren. The first one got a plate (I asked and the parents wished it), and I was the first godparent. For the second one I was third godparent, so I was not expected to buy a spoon or plate, the first and second did that together, so I made a cross-stich with the baby's details for them.

      Poista
    2. Thank you so much for your quick response!! After reading your experiences, I decided to ask the parents--telling them we had been thinking of gifting the engraved spoon or plate but also found some other options. It goes against my (American) nature to be so direct but this certainly makes this much easier, haha! Thanks again, you were so very helpful! :)

      Poista
    3. You are welcome, glad to help. We Finns tend to be quite direct in everything and usually we don't consider asking rude, but actually prefer it. :)

      Poista